Last week I heard from friends that the Must-Watch movie was “The Judge”. Since the malls were open during the All Saints Day, we took advantage of the situation since there wasn’t much to do. All I knew about the movie was that it starred Robert Downey Jr and Robert Duvall. For my wife and I, this movie can’t miss! We were so looking forward to the movie and it didn’t disappoint.
I’m sure most of you know the plot of the movie so I won’t go into that. Ok, maybe I will say a little bit of the plot for those who don’t know. Hotshot “Bad Ass” lawyer (Robert Downey Jr.) comes home to attend his mother’s funeral but not looking forward to it since he has dead relationship with his judge dad (Robert Duvall). On the day after the burial, judge is accused of killing someone and hotshot lawyer is forced to defend his dad. What really struck me was the frailty of this judge. So we all know that a judge can be like God. Whatever happens in his courtroom is up to him. He decides the fate of the accused. But what about his human side?
When I saw the scene of the judge uncontrollably shitting in his pants while his hotshot lawyer son, struggled to help him out, I couldn’t help but remember my uncle in SFO who took care of his wife by himself for over three years while she suffered from a debilitating disease. All of my relatives saw the sacrifices he did for my aunt and we were one in agreeing that we wouldn’t even last a day taking care of a loved one. There was one time I had the responsibility of taking care of my aunt and when it came to crunch time, I failed. Maybe I can blog about that incident someday. So in my mind, I see my SFO uncle as a living saint.
Hotshot lawyer was the prodigal son who reluctantly came back home to attend his mother’s funeral and deal with his father. In my case, sometimes I feel like the prodigal son. As the member of the family who has to shuttle back-and-forth to follow up the family interests in Negros. I don’t get to see my parents that much. Well at least I’m not like an OFW who gets to see his love ones once a year at very best. I consider myself lucky that both of my parents are alive and I know my parents are advancing in age and every time I spend with them should be cherished and remembered. I used to play golf with my dad but since he got an ACL and refused surgery, he has played less golf and we can’t seem to match our schedules. Lately I have been taking him to S & R as he enjoys buying stuff in bulk for my mother. That’s about once a month. Oh yes, we also went on an Ilocano Roadtrip with my wife and mother. That was special. Lately, I postponed a trip to Negros just to see my mother walk up the stage for her 60th homecoming. Nothing much to see but seeing her up there onstage was priceless!
I have never been shy to express my emotions. Many times I have heard of people regret not telling their loved ones while they were still alive, that they loved them. I’m not one of them thank God! I’m very affectionate and not shy to show it. So my advice to others out there, don’t neglect your loved ones especially your parents and show that you love them. You need not be demonstrative. Just be true to yourself, they will know.